Being a mom is rough, it is hard, it can be tiresome, it is chaotic, it is quick decisions, and it is all consuming. That is no secret to any woman who is or was a mother. However modern day mothers have another fight that previous generations never faced…and that is social media.
As adults we constantly teach our kids about bullying and what not to do to other children. We try to teach them acceptance and that if you don’t have anything nice to say…then don’t say it. Kids have workshops at school on how to deal with bullies and what to do if they are being bullied…but what we are missing is that these children are learning it from somewhere.
With everything moms already have to endure and figure out, now we have to figure out how to not be judged and bullied through so called “support groups” on Facebook, or mom pages on Instagram, and certain mom groups on Twitter. Where is the anti-bullying campaign for new mothers who join these so called support groups thinking they will learn from seasoned mothers, and instead all they get is backlash for not breastfeeding, or yelled at for not co-sleeping. How about those new moms who post about their rough day looking for support, or a little pick me up and another mom belittles her because she should be able to handle 1 child…after all this other mother has 4 children and made it through the day. There is this whole new forum for mothers to bully other mothers without having to confront them. They can just sit behind a computer screen and type away how they feel without seeing the effects it has on the person they are targeting.
What could these mom bullies possibly get from bullying other mothers? My poor niece was a recent victim of a mom bully and it infuriates me. This young lady actually took a screen shot of my nieces post and posted it in a Facebook group just to belittle and make fun of my niece…and for what?? My niece was doing nothing wrong and just because this other mother wouldn’t have done it the same way…she decides to post it and make fun of her?? Why not personally message her and talk about what is bothering her? Why do bullies feel the need to drag everyone else into the mix as well?
MOM BULLIES SUCK!
Who gives a sh** if you feed your kids only organic, or if your kids eat chicken nuggets. Who really cares if your kid sleeps in your bed or their bed. My kids were bottle fed and just as intelligent as their cousins who weren’t. My point is that each mother knows what is best for THEIR children and should never be bullied for a difference of opinion. We need to take a card from our husbands and be more like them on this! How many times have you seen a dad make fun of or bully another dad?? I NEVER have!! Dads know how to stick together and help each other out, so why can’t mothers? Why is it always a competition?
What an amazing thing it would be if these so called support groups were actually supportive and uplifting. Maybe we would have less stigmas on postpartum depression or being a mother with anxiety. Maybe new mothers could learn something instead of thinking all seasoned moms are stuck up and judgmental. We could empower other mothers and… *wait for it*… LEARN from other mothers!! No mother is perfect. We have all lost are shit on our kids at least once or a thousand times, but who cares. That is the joy of parenting and we need to have the bully mothers not pretend that they haven’t. We all know you have!!!
Please think about what you post or comment with on social media. Use your words and knowledge to uplift and encourage other mothers. Don’t post a comment if it is meant to judge, belittle, condemn, or make fun of. If a post upsets you but doesn’t effect you…just scroll past it. If it does effect you, then be an adult and privately message the other woman and work it out that way! We are all in this thing called motherhood together and we need all the support we can get!
Have you been a victim of social media? If so, how did you handle it?